We all develop attachments from the beginning of our existence in this world. We hold on to the material, physical world when we don’t know how to interpret the emptiness inside us. Instead of embracing the emptiness and replacing it with spirituality, most of the time we are in denial and just live our lives without any meaning. Sometimes our ego and fears dominate our existence to the extent of not being able to survive without certain people or things in our lives. And most of the time, we make the mistake of calling it “LOVE”. Our physical existence; meaning the looks, bodies, status, money, careers,sexual pleasure are not here forever. If you love someone for one or more of the reasons above, let’s face it , it is NOT real love. It is just attachment , extension of the ego self.
If you love the soul, heart and mind of a person, and you focus on loving them in the present, accepting that it may eventually end one day; there is a good chance it may be a real love. Most of the time, we only cling to the past ,focus on the past of the other or on our future with them, only to let our fears take over the relationship in a form of attachment. This is where the fear of letting go takes place, although we are very unhappy and empty inside. We are so afraid of being alone or losing our status in the society that we attach to people or things to look good in the eyes of others who judge or even hate people for being happy without the material or simply on their own.
In this physical world, there is only one person you can depend on forever: It is YOU. So, before anyone or anything else, learn to love and accept yourself the way you are. This is the only way to find the real love that has no conditions or is not the opposite of hate. Read more